This is from Postsecret, it was posted yesterday along with other “mothers day” secrets. It’s been awhile since I have seen anything on there that I feel relates to me or even that I just like enough to save the picture. But then yesterday I saw this. This is no secret of mine, everyone knows I don’t want to have kids, but it is nice to see that there are others out there who feel the same way. I never imagined that I would be the age I am now and have none of my original friends left. They all have families, and they don’t seem to be able to respect my decision not to. I’ve lost count of the times I have heard things like “you’ll change your mind”, “it’s different when it’s your own”, “you’re missing out”, “a child is the greatest gift you can have”. Ok, these things I guess are all true for you, but not for me. I like my life the way it is and I don’t plan on changing it. You may consider me selfish if you wish, that is your perogative, but my life and my time is for me. I cannot imagine having anyone depend on me for so many years. I admire those who are good parents, and I don’t hate children. If you are my friend or part of my family I would do anything I could to help you out (I’m not THAT selfish!). I would never tell someone who wanted kids “you’ll regret it”, “what if you change your mind” or anything like that, it would be rude of me and none of my business!! Adults should be responsible for their own decisions and a good friend will be supportive and non judgemental even if their opinion differs from your own. I’ve met some good kids and I’ve met some horrible ones. I can enjoy spending time with the good ones but they don’t make me want to have any of my own. I know my own mind, I’ve had 34 years to live with it, I’m very unlikely to change it now. We should all respect each others lifestyle choices. Why should everyone be the same?
I do hope no one is offended by my opinion, because that’s all it is, an opinion. I don’t want to upset anyone, live and let live.